3 ways to shake a comparisonitis funk
Tackling a bout of COMPARISONITIS? It's alright - we ALL DO IT.
We all fall victim to the comparison bug from time to time. Often Comparison comes with voices that tell us we don't measure up, we aren't enough as we are.
"She's doing so well, I'm not."
"They've got such a beautiful family and they seem so happy but I'm still single and my life is a mess."
"She's got so much confidence, I wish I could walk into a room like her."
I'm sure you've got some gems of your own.
(feel free to head over to the FB group and share yours there)
Next time you're struck by these nasty thoughts - I invite you to take three deep breaths and observe your thoughts. What are they ? What's coming up for you?
When you get a chance, I invite you explore the meaning behind your Comparisonitis. You know, the part of comparing yourself that is making you feel belittled, ashamed, jealous.
Explore what that means by asking some of the following questions;
1. Why am I feeling X?
2. Is this something that I want to pursue (their lifestyle/health/relationships/whatever has got your knickers twisted)
3. Is this something I actually desire but have been denying myself? If yes, are there ways you can introduce this into your life?
4. If you have been denying this in your life or your desire -- why? Where did this come from? What was the root cause? Did someone tell you when you were little that artists don't make any money so you stopped painting while studying economics? What's the cause? Is it true? (really true?)
5. Are you measuring yourself against your own Yardstick? Or are you measuring yourself against someone else's map for life?
6. Write about and create your own ideals. What do you expect/hope for yourself? Use this to measure yourself against. ALSO - remember not everything in life goes as planned. You may have to revisit and readjust your Ideal as time passes and that's completely OKAY.
THREE WAYS TO STEP OUT OF A COMPARISON FUNK;
1. GRATITUDE - Nothing shakes a bad mood or lackful thinking like a good old Gratitude rant. Write it, list it, flow it, think it, say it out loud. Acknowledge and appreciate everything that you have in your life. Everything that you ARE. This will always shake you up into thinking about your abundance and sufficiency.
2. LIST YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS - spend some time reflecting on what you have already achieved - big and small. Again, this will shift you from lack to sufficiency.
3. WRITE ABOUT YOUR IDEAL. Reaffirm what it is that you want for your life and what you will measure yourself to.
Write your way,
Katrina
// image is from Pinterest however I don't know who originally created it //
Let go of these to FEEL BETTER about yourself...
Got that knot in your chest? Feeling a little (or a lot) meh? You know, mopey, procrastinating, watching series on netflix back to back, feeling stuck, moping around the house...
You've got a project you want to work on - application to study, a book you want to write, a business you want to start but you can't get yourself together enough to actually start (or continue) the damn thing.
I guarantee you'll feel BETTER if you quit engaging in the following behaviours;
1. COMPARING (Yep, Comparisonitis is a bitch and a sure-fire method to keep you feeling small)
2. JUDGING OTHERS (Judging others generally means you don't accept that characteristic or behaviour, or you exhibit the behaviour or characteristic but aren't aware so you project it, or there could be a level of envy or resentment)
3. Listening to the voice of FEAR rather than DISCERNMENT (hint: fear shouts while discernment whispers)
4. Playing the BLAME GAME (you could be avoiding accepting responsibility... among other things)
5. Engaging in VICTIM MENTALITY (what about me???)
6. PEOPLE PLEASING -- Get your FREE DOWNLOAD, 3 steps to stop people pleasing by clicking here
Becoming more aware of yourself - your thoughts and your behaviours - will enable you to see if you are engaging in these kinds of behaviours...
If you're reading this and identifying these behaviours but you're wondering, how the hell do I shift that? Start by just changing your state. Turn off the TV and on the music - dance, practice yoga, jump around. Take yourself on a walk, a jog or a swim. Get under a cold shower if you have to!
Pull yourself out of your slump because honey, no one else can do that for you!
“Pull out your pen and paper and remind yourself of who you really are”
1. Begin with a fountain of GRATITUDE. Acknowledge and appreciate all the good in your life and about yourself. Be specific. Eg. I'm grateful for the hair on my head, my blue eyes that see well, for my healthy body, my legs that walk me everywhere, my body that bends when I practice yoga... and on and on and on....
2. Write about everything you have achieved and accomplished so far.
3. Write out your dreams in positive, active language as though they are a reality NOW. What do you want in all areas of your life? How do you want to feel, who do you want to be, how do you want to spend your time?
(if you're feeling really down and this is wayyy too far, take it a step back. eg. Instead of staying "I earn millions of dollars" if you currently don't have a job and that seems ridiculous write about how abundant the world is and you know that there are lots of people in the world who were once in your position and now have millions so you can do it too. That you know you have a wealth of abundance within you to create and share)
4.. Write one action you will do today that will take you closer to this dream. One small step.
Go and do that one thing. Go, now.
Write your way home,
Katrina
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